I know I am not the only one who has sat up late at night, day dreaming about outlandish, intangible task and thought they were goals. I remember those “Goals” being farfetched and a bit out of control, nevertheless I was committed. We have all been there before and let me guess, that year was ineffective. So ineffective that only days later we crumpled that beautiful piece of failed attempts and trashed it immediately.
Big thanks to this year’s trials and three questions, I am equipped to assist in your goal writing for year 2018. But first, you must promise me that you will ask yourself and answer these questions honestly. This is your year for greatness, no need to save face or beat around the bush! First, are your goals impossible? Secondly, are you willing to fight for the impossible? Thirdly, are you willing to fail and make necessary adjustments along the way? If the answer is Yes to all three of these questions, you one step closer to greatness!
1. What’s list worthy?
We as people do not write down the possible or memorable things in life. We have so many resources to remind us of the impossible yet unforgettable. We have tools such as the notes on our phones, sticky tabs on our laptops, calendars on our desk and our journals or diaries scattered throughout the house. If your goals are possible and memorable, take the goal(s) off. Goal lists are necessary for the impossible, the things we only wish to achieve. These are the goals we reread daily, and check in monthly. These goals are realistic, but require much faith, a splash of insanity and time. This is where the commitment begins, this is where you establish your strength and see it at in action.
2. Is it worth the fight?
In life, some of our greatest feats came with an ongoing, intense, unwanted but worthwhile emotional, mental or physical fight. Don’t believe me? Think back to your favorite possession, or prided accomplishment, nine times out of ten you busted your butt for it. And if you didn’t, you probably don’t have it anymore. Why, because you didn’t have to fight for it, or you weren’t willing to fight to keep it (but that’s another blog post for another day)! Some fights aren’t always physical or with other people. Most of our adult fights are emotional or spiritual. Other times they are within or external. Regardless where the fight is and how it is presented, you must be willing to fight. If your list has things, people and places that do not encourage or strengthen your ability to fight, it’s probably not list worthy. Therefore, GET RID OF IT!
3. Ready to Fail??
I ask this question openly, and I understand if you’re rolling your eyes. I mean who asks that, and who really answers “Yes, totally I am so ready to fail”. Well as crazy as it sounds, the truth is all success comes with failure. The funny thing about failure is its seasonality. See, you win some and you will lose some, but you learn to appreciate the lessons. Success and failure comes and go’s but its never about the failure or accomplishments, it’s all about the perception.
If your list has no room for failure, mistakes or unplanned but necessary reroutes, well throw the whole darn list away! There’s no need in writing something that will only disappoint you and ruin yet another year. There’s no point in striving for success and missing all the lessons, as the lessons are there for character building. You need the lessons, that’s why you need the failure but that’s why you will succeed. It can be a healthy cycle! Point is, no one gets it right the first time and no one is perfect. No matter how “on point you are”, you will miss the mark but hey, the mark you may have missed in February could be the bulls-eye in July.
With those three questions and your honesty, I promise you are on your way to potentially the best year ever. No, this isn’t a guarantee but it’s certainly a buffer. And remember, there’s nothing in this life worth having if don’t have to fight for it or fight to keep it!
Happy New Year and Happy List Writing!
-Sara J.
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